The antiselfie is enamored of this woman’s story. It shows the power of gratitude and social media.
Lynne Scrivens, an Australian TV news producer, embarked on a daily gratitude post on Facebook, after seeing one of her friends doing it.
Instinctively, Scrivens knew being deliberately grateful every day would change her life.
“I knew the grateful project would help me get back on track. I just had a feeling.” Issues the 38-year-old wanted to tackle included drinking “too much, too often, alone,” having “dark, deep, depressing thoughts,” her “sparse” love life, and lack of exercise, she writes.
After a year of seeing and announcing at least one good thing in her life every single day on Facebook, Scrivens’ life did in fact change for the better.
She ended up chucking a job that was no longer fulfilling, and moved from Sydney to Melbourne, where she always wanted to live. Her struggle with alcohol brought her to a place of sobriety and healthy moderation. She started exercising and met a man who she eventually announced on Facebook was a “keeper.” Nice!
The antiselfie loves the fact that Scrivens was inspired by a Facebook friend to do this, and that she herself decided to copy that behavior and in turn, is inspiring others (the antiselfie included!) to follow in their footsteps and be grateful every day!
Shortly after reading about Scrivens, the antiselfie began posting and tweeting #grateful daily–and yes–has noticed changes!
In the few days of this daily dose of deliberate thankfulness online, the antiselfie started noticing that it was the recipient of more random unsolicited blessings, just small things–i.e., free meals from friends, random presents from people, people going out of their way to be nice and helpful to the antiselfie in various ways! Wow! And that’s just in less than a week!
Robert Emmons, a University of California, Davis psychology professor and gratitude expert and author (“Gratitude Works!”) tells Yahoo Shine that gratitude can really be life changing, even through Facebook, but you can get similar results by keeping a journal or finding another way to focus on being grateful.
“The quality of our social relationships is the single most important factor in determining the quality of our lives, hence our happiness,” he says in an email. “And gratitude is the relationship-strengthening emotion. Gratitude tells us that we are supported and sustained by the kindness of others. It takes our attention off of ourselves and places it onto others. This is radical, because by nature we are self-absorbed and self-focused.”
What he’s saying is–gratitude is a BIG antiselfie–because it focuses on others, not just on your selfie.
And that makes a big difference in the way you conduct yourself, relate to others, and how others relate to you. Try it for yourself!
Would you try posting things to be grateful for every day to change your life? Would you trade one selfie for a gratitude antiselfie?
Read more about Scrivens’ Gratitude Project here: